What if no one cares

Sometimes we end up pushing the people we do care about away. The weight of those problems can be crushing, and we may end up lashing out at other people just because of the stress. How often do you go up to people that seem angry to try to talk to them? Give them space?

Give them time to cool down? Other people do the same thing. We need to have healthy ways to feel our negative emotions without lashing out with them destructively. It may be better to develop coping skills, see a counselor, or even just go out for some exercise to burn off those emotions. Journaling can be helpful to process those feelings too. If you need some time to yourself, express that need and take the time that you need.

Do you have people that you have just grown distant from? Reach out and suggest setting up a time to reconnect. This is an easy way to give you both a structured way to keep in touch, stay connected, and nurture those feelings of caring. Not every relationship is going to last forever. People regularly go through friendships and relationships as they live their life and get older.

You may find that you need to make an additional effort to develop new relationships as time goes on. A great way to do that is through hobbies, volunteering, taking classes, or community involvement. Churches used to be the primary way for communities to gather and interact. Nowadays, there may be other options available, like community organizations or charities. You may also find local meet and greets if the area you live in is large enough.

A support group may be another option if you are dealing with mental health issues. Emotionally healthy people with healthy boundaries do not spend their time around negative or destructive people. Do you want to know who does? People with poor boundaries and other negative, destructive people. You may find that no one cares about you because your actions and behavior have driven away the kind of people that you actually want in your life.

Life is hard enough without having someone else constantly talking badly to others, being disrespectful, or unable to control their more negative behaviors. And from that perspective, it can definitely feel like the person no longer cares because they have many layers of defenses up between you. Maybe you know someone who is going through a hard time and your listening ear can make a big difference. Even if you're going through difficult circumstances, serving others gives you a new perspective and can help you feel good about yourself.

Having realistic expectations of what others can do for you is imperative to protecting yourself from feeling unloved, lonely, or overlooked. Avoid the temptation of comparing yourself to other people. It's important to realize that everyone's situation is different and there may be things going on that you don't know about, and that's why it's important not to make assumptions. Sometimes you don't know the struggles other people are going through.

Something may be preventing them from reaching out to you, but it's not because they don't care. The way you interpret your experiences can have a great impact on your emotions.

Sometimes, our minds trick us into believing certain things are true, but in reality, we are narrowly focused on one small aspect of a situation or viewing it through a distorted lens. When you catch yourself having feelings of loneliness, give yourself a reality check. For example, did one person forget to call you, and now you feel like nobody cares? Just because one person lets you down does not mean all people will let you down.

Another thinking error is relying on "Should Statements. Learning to catch these types of thoughts and working on reframing them into more rational thoughts can help you to experience more positive feelings and behaviors.

Working with a counselor to help you identify any cognitive distortions could be greatly beneficial. If you think that patient, caring support may help you develop healthier communication habits with your loved ones, especially if your feelings of loneliness are building to feelings of anxiety or depression, you may want to consider working with a therapist or counselor through a service like BetterHelp.

Recent studies have found that individual online therapy can reduce symptoms of depression by 50 percent and symptoms of anxiety by 57 percent over a four-month period. Think about how much better you could feel in four months or less—let alone how much healthier and happier your relationships could become—with the support and guidance of a licensed mental health professional.

Online therapy can provide you with a nonjudgmental, compassionate expert who can help you work through your feelings, on your own schedule and in your own comfort zone. A therapist with BetterHelp can guide you through strategies to reframe negative or self-derogating thoughts and build your self-esteem. If you have ever thought, "No one cares about me," know that an online counselor will gladly work alongside you to break through negative feelings.

You deserve to feel valued and loved, and online counseling can help. Read below for some reviews of BetterHelp counselors from users who have sought help with self-esteem issues. Yvonne helped me hone in on the root of the issues I was dealing with and helped provide me with tools to improve my outlook and self-esteem.

She helped me realize the ways of thinking that were not serving me and take steps to overcome my fears and insecurities. She's also been great at providing me with perspective. I have no joy. I fake happiness, when I have the energy. I just feel like a big, black void. And I write here, because God woke me up this morning. For better or worse.

You obviously had much pain and abuse in your life. I think just having someone to truly listen about your life and validate your feelings is a must. I too am a nurse, so can understand a bit more. If you ever want to reach out, feel free. I haven to say that this is such a superficial understanding of feeling alone.

That is not being alone. YOu say you are mostly and optimist and sometime feel kinda this way…. Nonsense garbage article.

Leave this stuff out of the internet if you really want to help people. Regarding your kid, Kshill Gilbran says our children are not our own. We just give them an opportunity at life. It is so hard to let them make their own choices. I told my daughters that their emotional distance disrespects the commitment I made to them when I was a single mom. As for finding a partner at age 60, my family dr recommend E-Harmony.

Given a wall of faces, I pick the serial killers every time. You can decide if those are deal breakers or not. Also, besides great screening, the answers are to the questions it would take months of dating getting dressed, makeup, discomfort to learn. Anyone who is deceptive is kicked out.

I figured. Believe me, I was ready to cash it all in. For this state, that was miraculous!!! As all of the personal info and beliefs had already been addressed via the questions and our emails before our first date.

My husband told me on our first date, was that it was my frank honesty that made him fall in love with me. Had we met anywhere else we never would have spoken to each other. Good men have been screwed over and fearful of that pain occurring again.

Forget the Bad Boys. I too am alone. So, no one but a couple of girlfriends scattered all over the states. Your issues are far more common than you realize.

There are MANY women that are living our lives, which does t seem true when you look around yourself; but it is. I can completely understand. I feel like I have no purpose in life. I was a daughter, but both parents are gone. I hate being alone. I hate living alone, and I hate making all the decisions because I always make the wrong one. It is lonely. I commiserate with you. I do not have children but I know families with five solid adult children and not one even speaks to the other because of conflicts.

Then there are the families with yelling and violence. Better to be alone! I would miss most the phone call with mother of what I ate for dinner that night. Who else would care? Or how my hair looked. Truly, you must realize that all the people you met in the past was not from sitting in your livingroom; it was because you went someplace. Got to get out like a tourist. Wish there was a club where we got a person to make sure we were alive everyday and listen to what we ate for dinner.

I am sorry for your pain. Everything will be ok. I understand the tunnel feeling. I understand the blackness of it. It will come in time and eventually those bad moments will fade. Your important you matter and you are loved. I honestly think all my loved ones would be better with me gone. My health has deteriorated suddenly and nothing seems to go right anymore.

People share the highlights, not the lowlights. We can feel anxious, sad, and unhappy after going on Facebook or Instagram. But people share the highlights, not the lowlights. I feel like no one cares. I feel alone. This stood out to me because I used to feel so unwanted — and definitely like no one cares — when I went on Facebook and Instagram.

I stopped visiting those sites for six months, and felt alot better. Going offline — getting off the internet! But better is to learn who you are in Jesus Christ, and to become who God created you to be. You are here for a reason, and you matter. But if you succumb and dwell in the dark pit of feeling unwanted and alone, you have no chance of seeing the light. Searching the internet and reading comments from others who feel like nobody cares is helpful…but better is to get out into the world and interact with real people.

Laurie, you are so right. I often surf Facebook and see all the beautiful photos of my friends perfect families. I decided tonight to unplug. I get depressed and feel why am I measuring my worth based on my daughters approval of what I say, buy or do?

My husband rejected me. He told me he wants out relationship to be strictly platonic. The person I thought was my friend abducted my kids. It took notifying the police to get them back. I AM all alone and unwanted. It is true that we can tell ourselves a victim narrative. Life will often test our capacity to remain compassionate and to keep qualities that make us human through suffering. Learning to believe in yourself no matter what anyone says is very important. Learning that you and only you can know what is truly in your heart is another key.

It is tempting to want to defend against what others say about us to define our intentions. However, when you believe in and love yourself, no one can take it away from you. We go through life, death, pain and joy. All of it is an experience. When you feel you have lost everything and everyone you cared about, you have a chance to go within while all has been stripped down to allow you to re-evaluate the beliefs, ways of thinking and being that no longer serve your growth.

Seasons show us that life is constantly in cycles of transition and renewal or growth. Connect with the Divine essence of God within you— for you are a being living, breathing and moving through and a part of the miracle of existence through willed creation.

And your thoughts and feelings have some of the same power to shape your world and experience. If they are not patient or understanding with you, they are less patient, understanding and loving with themselves. Everyone is in a process. You are your own key and answers. I pray that you go with love today, and do something, anything you can to love and nurture your spirit, health body , and mind.

Whether that is with nature or art, or prayer and contemplation. The world around you is vast. Nature has its own language to share if you listen, and you are not ever truly alone as each of us is part of that nature. It truly sucks feeling so utterly alone.

Ive read and heard that i should turn to God. Well, i have. And nothing……. Hurts even more! Because i realise and feel God has turned his back on me. Whats the point of being human. Being alive. When u completely alone.????????? Oh, heavens could this be God that I found this or sheer coincidence?

It was the driving force behind my Quest to find God-Love manifested in the physical realm He created, beyond just human goodness, kindness of strangers and social or family interactions or even romantic ones.

Needless to say, it did exacerbate feelings of wondering why I or we are actually here and the desire to die young. That it is not just a Destination. That there is beauty and hope even in the darkest nights of the Soul.

And I realized that the Path to finding a Higher connection with the spiritual beyond physical limitations IS possible.

Just not quick, and shortcuts can be setbacks. Sorry, the quote that eludes me in reference to this article and the commenter sharing about working in Africa is one that Mother Theresa shared in her service in India…something about her struggles to feel God and to keep on even when faith seemed irrelevant, and about her intense loneliness….

What made it worse was my fear and insecurity. I did see a counselor for the last 9 months that I lived there, and she helped a lot!

I kept myself stuck for years. He created you for a reason — and it was not to punish or ignore you! Learn who Jesus is, what He experience, and how He lived.

Open your heart and mind to the Holy Spirit. Ask for wisdom, guidance, and healing. And reach out to people in person. One of my biggest regrets in Africa — the loneliest season of my life, when I really believed nobody cared about me — was listening to the accuser tell me I was worthless, alone, and unloved. Those were lies.

Learn how to see through the lies, and to hold on to the truth. You were created by a loving God who not only knows you exist, He wants you to flourish. He wants you to blossom into who He created you to be…but you have to participate. Plant seeds, nurture sprouts of life and growth, and celebrate the beauty that surrounds you. I am all alone. My husband has not touched me in over 15 years because I am no longer a size 0.

I work from home with really no communication from my company other than what my production numbers should be. I go weeks on end without talking or seeing others. My husband works 6 and 7 days a week. When he is not working he is sleeping 13 hrs a day. I am a Christian I will not leave my husband even though I know he is not here for me.

I am lost. I think my isolation is my punishment from God for not always being a good example. I live in the country. They love the money I make and are here when they need things. But they are not here when I need them.

But what do I do. I am so tired of crying. I have 6 brothers and sisters with me being the middle child. But since we lost both our parents in we are not as close. Yeah we have one that thinks she took over the roll of mom and hurts me more than loves me.

I suffer from their loss everyday, but according to them not as much as they do and they think it is better not to talk about it. I am lost and all alone in this world and just need to find a reason to keep going on. Hello Diane! I thought she was going to die in January. She was in hospital with pneumonia. I take her out when I can, call almost daily and take care of her admin. Today my brother offered to help me out.

He offered to take my mum to visit her God daughter. My mum thought it was a ludicrous idea, that he should travel to collect her and then visit her God daughter when he lives two hour drive away. I can only assume it meant the task was left to me.

I work full time and have my own son, husband and a home. The pressure has been immense. The day is ruined and my heart is heavy. My mum is not loving or affectionate and I have come to accept this. I feel lost, lonely, angry and not enough. Never enough. I am right there with you and I so understand how you feel, I wish I knew who you were so I could stay in touch and see how you are doing.

Diane know that I care. Love to you. I have though about death more consistently almost daily these past 3 years. Nothing gets better — it only gets worse. Blame my faith they always say. I hear squat! I cannot reject the reality of Him. Its about Him dealing with other more important people. I am nothing. I feel worthless. The world closes its eyes to it. So now, how do I foresee my future? I have nothing to offer. There is no justice. Everyone has betrayed me in some for or another maybe I did too unknowlingly.

Why the hell are we on this earth? Some, even seem to think its our thinking. I should hope? Hope for what? My husband left me with nothing for greener pastures i asked for nothing, even though he took half of what I had when he had thousands worth of equipment. Yes, I feel bitter. Somedays I feel grateful — yes roof over my head for now , safe from crime today , and food on my table yes tin food is still food — not brain food, but ja.

All my dreams are gone and yes I had some besides the married with children not that that is not admirable. Thank you. I am in absolute horror at the current situation in South Africa, which admittedly, I was completely unaware of until reading your post which sparked my curiosity and inspired additional research. So, thank you for opening my eyes to something so important that is obviously flying under the radar of mainstream media.

I think it is only natural to feel as low as you probably do, given your current environment and the worry you face each day. Do you have family? Anyone outside of South Africa? Do you have any resources or friends that accompany you? What do you know of Simon Roche? I believe that if given the chance to remove yourself from such an environment, you would experience a great surge of relief that may help remove the clouds from your mind.

I believe those clouds are preventing you from feeling hopeful. I understand that there is no way I can comprehend what life is like for you in South Africa no matter how many articles I read, but please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers and although a stranger, I want nothing more for you than happiness and freedom from hell on earth.

There is no magic bullet to fix our pain oh how I wish it were. Nevertheless something good is going to come out of all of this. Hello Alice, i really do empthasize with all of what you have mentioned, you seem like a very intelligent being and you are not unusual for feeling the way you do about life in general.

I was in a relationship for 14 years, I invested all myself in , i have 2 kids , I gave up on that relationship because my kids Father was cheating a lot on me , I felt maybe he never loved me. He was never satisfied he will alwqys come up with some lies , so i left him 6 almost 7 years ago, i could never restart my life engine since. I dont know anymore …i tried to go one day at a time hoping on Jesus to heal me so I can forget him.. Hello Annie, i want to congratulate you, i really do, i think you should be so proud that you had the courage to leave that man, he was not worth it, not at all, you deserve better!

If he could cheat it shows he is a lost man and needs to find himself and not other woman! No matter what happens do not resort to methods like self harm because it only distracts you from your pain, does NOT alleviate it. I know how you feel. I was with my wife 27 years , I love her and still do.

She left with my daughter and my hearth was broken and to the point I did want to live. I was injury in line of duty as and EMT, no doctor could help me but for drugs.

I got hooked and could stop. I needed her more then ever. Everyone that I thought that were my friend turn there backs on me side with her. That was 14 years ago, I still love her to this day. She was my best friend , solmate , and lover. She move on remarried and got even more problems. She left him 2 times and every time I hope she would come back, I have this little hope in the back of my mind that she would and make us a hole family again.

I have missed so much of life with her and my daughter who she told her that its greener on the other side. I have been told no chance, I still hope and pray. I call it true love. I have friends who has help me but alot of times I am on my own , even gave up on God one time.

I tried asking other women out but it turn out to be nothing. I believe true love is what is between to people that were meant to be with each other.

I hope the best for you I still destroying myself over her. She still hates me I still love her. I even ask her to run me over and stop my broken heart pain, I have no more heart left to be broken.

Hi Todd, i honestly can say i really do understand you. So thankful to read the sharing about loneliness and unwanted feelings. My parents got divorced when i was 6. I still remembered my mom rejected me by giving me away to be wt my dad to stay wt her new wife and her children from previous marriage. I was bullied mentally, physically and sexually from my step Siblings including molested by my own father.

Until today i Harbour bitterness to my mom. She never apologised for given me away and caused me so much pain. Now i am married to a good man and have my own child. My problems is i hate and resent everyone.

I feel so lonely and afraid. I feel every one including my husband just want to be around me because all the favour that i can offer and not really because they want me.

Most of the time i feel nobody like me or want me. I have to say, i also feel like i do not trust anyone, like people only want me around for something i might have to offer them, especially men, as i have been hurt before and now i do not trust them and think they only want a woman for their own satisfaction…obviously the wrong men are in my life, i am single but a particular man i like him as a friend but he always tries to push it to more than that and i know he has a woman at home, she is not interested in him so i feel he does not want to be my friend but just wants to know me for his own satisfaction.

I so needed this this morning! I am a believer and have been beating myself up for these feelings of loneliness and anger. It hurts. Actually I just wish my husband got me but he is so lost and alone himself.

I finally shutdown and withdraw. I feel like I am failing as a wife and even though I am married I still feel alone. I have 5 kids and I feel alone.

I think I maybe suffering from depression as well. I am 33 years old and I feel as though I have not really lived. I have given my self to being a mom which I am okay at and a wife which I feel like I have failed based on the tension between my spouse and I.

I hope that you find a way to cope as I am looking for ways to do so myself I feel that I am to young for this but I guess not young enough. Your not alone find ways and things to help you out of this funk and follow through on them.

If you can find a support group, write, read, sing, we are never really alone , just look for others like yourself as believe me you will be surprised. I moved away from my home state bc I needed to get away from things that were distracting me , drugs weed only , alcohol and men.

I take care of my dog and I work and pay bills and then I work more bc I cant afford my bills. I dont talk to my twin sister much bc she doesnt seem to want to talk to me. And then I feel selfish for wanting her time when I know shes busy with a new marriage and the navy.

Everyone is just so busy with their own lives how dare i feel the need for their time. I feel better having gotten this all out.

I donf have family, friends, or a career worth anything. I am in the same lonely situation. I have no one. Reading what you wrote sounded exactly like me. I would love to join and talk…. I have no one else in my life and I keep accepting bad behavior from men. I am in a very similar situation. Three years ago I got married to a Marine and moved 7 hours away from my hometown. Not even a full year into the marriage, he began lying and cheating so I filed for divorce.

Hello Brooke and to everyone out there! Its a hard world to decipher, i know, but we must move on and try to be happy for something in our lives. Lots of love. My husband is good for me in so many ways but intelectually we are not on the same level and that makes me feel lonely in our marriage.

On top of that I made the decision to become muslim just before I met my muslim husband five years ago. A few months into our marriage I realised that I made a big mistake. I eventually told him I no longer want to be muslim. I speak to God a lot. I know that this will please me immensely and I think I will then feel less lonely.

Growing up my childhood was a bit shaky!! My mother always did the best should could for my brother and myself!! However I never had a father and I never got to meet him. I believe perhaps most of my problems in my life could stem from this. We always lived with relatives and my cousins would always pick on me!! I was a skinny girl however when I grew up I started into fitness!

Weight training and teaching aerobics made me strong in my body and my mind!! I just need to get my head out of my butt and consider myself lucky!! Sounds good but easier said than done for sure!!! This helped writing it down and I think I may keep a journal!! God Bless each one and hopefully we can help each other!!! Wow I like the way u think about life.

I wish to have a brave mind set like u , like have believe in god, problem are a part of our life we only have to do is move on. And we are facing all the bad thing and bad luck So my only Q is why only good people always suffer? It is exhausting listening to her constantly but she is ill, so now I see her once a week still supportive but not every day which was draining me.

My loneliness stems from two things: I was enormously peer-abused as a child, so school was painful, and my home life was terrible also. The second thing that causes my loneliness: I am or WAS a born giver. I also have no one to turn to. One family member in particular spent about 20 years bleeding me dry of all my resources as well as my compassion; she even stole thousands of dollars from me when I needed it most; and now I have nothing left in the way of resources, compassion, or ability to help myself, let alone others anymore.

I still have many dreams, but no ability to dream them let alone put them into action. I feel totally bled out. I totally understand how you feel. I was always and still am always there for others but they are never there for me. Please stop thinking about taking your own life. I know that, at your age, and possibly going through menopause, can cause you great anguish and loneliness. Try to find an outlet — write, paint, do anything creative.

Wishing you all the best and sending you lots of blessings. Take care of yourself. Roger, thank you for sharing your story and prayers. I hope you found it helpful to write about what it feels like when it feels like nobody cares.

Jesus, thank you for being here with us. Thank you for loving us and blessing us with your presence — especially when we feel alone, sad, and like nobody cares. Thank you for walking this earth and reaching out to us with love, grace, and compassion!

You are One with our Father God, and we gratefully and humbly accept you. Holy Spirit, come and fill us with your wisdom, love, and warmth. Give us a strong sense of who You are, fill us with your power and joy so we can be a light in this dark world.

Remind us to turn to You when we feel like nobody cares…and show us that Your presence is all we really need. Help us to see that all the rest of the good stuff in this world — relationships, beauty, love, pets, delicious food, laughter, vacations, surprises fun experiences — are just icing on the cake.

Amen, amen, and amen. Put yourself in control of your life. Start with something small. Buy yourself a present maybe. Brief description of the origins of these feelings: Abuse.

Physical, verbal, mental abuse, from my father. By the time she stepped in, I had turned I had been working out hard to defend myself, and it was too late, he was leaving her for another woman anyways. It was my tipping point, the moment I had been building my body and strength for. Today: I live alone in my own place, in a city across the country — have an okay job that allows me to live comfortably according to my needs, I have work acquaintaces but less than a handful of friends, none of which live near my city.

Personality wise no one would ever think I lived the life I have. I recently ended a 3 year long relationship with a good hearted woman, who also struggled with similar issues of her own. Throughout our relationship she reinforced that no one cares about me except her. Preface to the Dream: This is to give a bit of info so it can be understood easier. Years ago 2 years before the recent girlfriend I was in a very respectable and high paying job that was intended to be my career.

I fought long and hard to achieve it and overcame many obstacles. I was surrounded by what I realize now were fake friends and users. K, was amazing — had such a bubbly and outgoing personality, she was the center of attention at most events, she knew how to give just the right amount of care and affection.